Relationships aren’t always black and white. Sometimes it’s necessary to break things off with someone with whom you’re not officially an item. Whether you’ve gone on a few dates but sparks just aren’t flying or you have a «friends with benefits» arrangement, it can be tough to know how to break up when you’re not even really together.
INSIDER consulted with psychologists, counselors, and relationship experts to find out how to end a relationship with someone when you’re not an actual couple.
Have the talk as soon as you know you don’t want to continue seeing the person
When you decide that you no longer want to continue seeing or sleeping with someone, you owe it to them to break the news as soon as you can.
«Once you know things aren’t going to work with this other person, don’t string them along and wait and see who pops up in FCN chat your Tinder feed to determine if you’re going to return his or her text,» licensed psychotherapist and life coach Tess Brigham told INSIDER.
As soon as you feel certain that the relationship doesn’t have a future, make a plan to tell the other person how you feel.
If possible, try to meet face to face
If your relationship has been short-lived or very casual, arranging an in-person breakup can feel daunting or even excessive.